How to Be Sexy

In order to be sexy, you need to look and act the part around other people. More importantly, though, you need to take care of yourself even when no one's looking, and you need to think and feel sexy without anyone else's approval. Here are a few things to keep in mind when trying to be sexy.


Show a little skin. The trick here is knowing how much is too much. A flash of skin can tease and trigger desire, but in order to keep yourself in a guy's mind, you need to leave something to the imagination.^[1]

• Aim for balance. If you decide to show off your legs, keep your chest and back covered. If you show off your back, keep your legs and chest covered. If you go for a little cleavage, keep your back and legs in check.
• Choose your best feature to flaunt in order to make the strongest impression possible.

Let him see your wrists. Your wrists are one feature you can always expose for subtle yet lasting sexiness.

• The effect is more biological than anything else. The glands in your wrists emit pheromones, and these pheromones trigger feelings of attraction without the other party even realizing it.^[2]

Wear red clothes. A red dress, skirt, or top can spark desire in a man on sight.

• Some studies suggest that women wearing red are 56 percent more likely to be hit on or asked out than women wearing blue or white.^[3]
• Red mimics the red flush that skin takes on during moments of passion.

Avoid red lipstick. Oddly enough, your lips are the one feature that may not benefit as much from the color red as you would think. Neutrals and soft pinks tend to have a more dramatic effect than fire engine red.

• Women with pale skin look best in light rose shades, according to some.
• Women with medium-tone skin should consider pinks with brown undertones.
• Women with darker skin tend to look good in wine-colored pinks.

Choose the right fabrics. Admit it: you love the feeling of soft silk, suede, or cashmere on your skin. As it turns out, the texture of these materials beg to be touched by guys glancing your way, too.^[4]

• Silk can be especially alluring since it has culturally sexy connotations, but textured material in general makes a better choice than everyday fabrics like cotton or linen.

Slip on a pair of high heels. High heels are culturally construed as sexy footwear. You don't need to break your ankles wearing heels you can hardly walk in, but a shoe with a little bit of a heel will look sexier than one with none.

• There is some legitimate reason behind this principle, as well. High heels change the way a woman stands and walks. Slouching is much easier with sneakers than it is with strappy stilettos.
• High heels can also make legs look longer and slimmer.

Spray a light spritz of perfume. Perfume can have a draw a guy in close, but if you splash too much on, you will only end up pushing him away. The idea is to where enough perfume to catch someone's attention and draw them in closer for a better sniff.

• Pure perfumes should be dotted or sprayed on the wrists or behind the ears once a day.
• An eau de toilette should be sprayed in front of you and walked through before you head out for the night.
• In general, opt for perfumes that smell like exotic flowers, vanilla, amber, spices, etc.